Here's a theory.
The secret to a good old life might be contentment. Anyway that's what a wise feller told me, I've no idea if it's true. But our dog Barney has a good life, big garden and lots of birds to chase. But he plots on escape. He's escaped about 3 times and off he goes up the road oblivious of traffic. When Barney escapes he’s having a great time. We know the dangers but Barney doesn't. It would be great if Barney knew how good he had it in our garden.
Now reaching contentment can be hit and miss. When you’re in a state of contentment, everything just passes along nicely. It’s like you are observing things instead of reacting to things.
I’ve been trying to identify things that make me content. Here’s a few, being with family, being in love, golf, laughs, meditation, reading.
I’ve also identified things that don’t make me content, thinking too far ahead, being rushed, worry, what ifs.
I remember I was reading a book ”How to be Happy” and my mentor told me to put the book in the bin. I was delighted as he’d saved me the time of reading it. He said that it is impossible to be happy all the time and the secret is contentment. I think he was right.
So if you’re interested in finding contentment, here are some ideas:
Take a meditation course
Try these apps Headspace and Smiling Mind
Read the Book The Quiet Paul Wilson
Personally I’ve found contentment fleeting. Inevitably something comes along and puts me back on the treadmill. But contentment is a great place to visit when you can.